My picks for the best lesbian dating sites & apps
You might be surprised to find that my top lesbian website recommendation is not solely geared to lesbians. I think it's really encouraging that mainstream dating website cater really well to sections of the LBTQ+ community. If you're looking for a safer and more real experience, try out one of my recommended dating sites.
The best lesbian dating apps and sites are:
- The League
- Elite Singles
- Pink Cupid
The best lesbian dating sites and apps are:
- The League
- Elite Singles
- Pink Cupid
The best lesbian dating apps are:
#1 dating site for lesbians - eHarmony
- 30 million members in the US alone
- 16 million active weekly
- Majority are aged between 25-35
- Members from all over the world
- Free to join
- Data says majority of members are well educated and have a stable life
My first choice is actually an easy one, the most professional, trusted and highest percentage of sucess is eHarmony. I have tested every platform on this list and the ease of use combined with the high number of active members makes it a good place to potentially find a match. Although its not made exclusively for lesbians they do have one of the highest number of lesbian members out of any platform I have tested.
eHarmony is a website that most of those in the online dating scene will already have heard of. eHarmony is infamous for its initial personality profile, and extensive document and questionnaire that each new member needs to fill in before they can start finding matches. However, this personality profile is actually one of eHarmony’s greatest strengths and is a big part of the reason that it is considered such a great choice for women, especially those who are minded to one day marry.
Even though it's not primarily for lesbian dating it is still regarded as one of the most respected and reliable names in the whole online dating space. Since it first opened its doors more than a decade ago, eHarmony has refined its matchmaking system and is now in control of one of the most advanced matchmaking algorithms the world has ever seen. It takes a bit more time to create a profile and fill in the questionnaire for eHarmony than it does with many of their competitors, but fear not this is time well spent and maximizes your chances of finding love.
eHarmony is one of the few online dating platforms that is consistently rated very highly amongst its female users. This is clearly a platform that has been built with women in mind, including lesbians.
#2 dating site for lesbians - Pink Cupid
- Over 300k members in the US alone
- 28, 000 active monthly memebers
- Comes with an app
- Millions of members worldwide
- profiles are detailed, verified with min 3 photos
- 5-10 min sign up process
My number 2 recommendation is currently Pink Cupid, it's a premium service that has nearly 15 years experience and matched thousands of lesbian couples.
They have a proven track record of being successful and are very well trusted in the online dating space. They have an advanced algorithm to not only match you with good potential partners, but to keep spammers and cat-fishers away (to verify your profile you not only need to verifiy your email but you need to upload valid ID). You will not see the spam you see on tinder here. This is a real service and you know it as soon as you sign up.
Profiles are quite detailed, each profile needs a minimum of three photos which i liked. Everyone can view all profile photos in full size too which I am a huge fan of. Another feature I liked is that you can see the last time anyone was active (so you're not sending messages to someone who hasn't logged in in two years).
With the free plan you get the app, profile creation, upload photos, basic matching and communicate with premium members. When you pay for premium you get loads more features like chatting with all members, no ads, browse anonymously, custom search filters and a whole host of other things.
With a proven track record for matching lesbians since 2006, Pink Cupid wins second place.
#2 dating site for lesbians - Elitesingles.com
- Over 80% of members are university graduates
- 35+ is the recommended age category
- It takes 35 minutes to sign up
- It is free to sign up
- Average 3-7 matches daily
- well designed app
Elitesingles.com is my second choice, again not a platformed aimed exclusively at lesbians, but that's fine, trust me, there is a massive amount of lesbians on the platform. Again they have been around a long time they have developed a platform that is safe, secure, that has advanced algorithms for matching and safe from cat-fishing and spam.
It is designed to be a premier dating platform for professionals so it is aimed at lesbians who are career driven and are looking to meet like minded people. Everything about the platform is career driven so in the questionnaire you will be asked if you are a leader or a follower and if you are a natural problem solver.
The questionnaire will take you roughly half an hour so its not a super quick sign up process but the upside is that the platform will have more data to match you on. If you're serious about online dating you shouldn't be put off by a long questionnaire, i feel when it comes to online dating you usually get out of it what you put into it so don't be afraid to put in some effort.
Anyway Elitesingles.com gets the seal of approval from me and comes in third place.
#1 dating app for lesbians - HER
HER is an award-winning social media and dating app that lets you meet girls who like girls. It’s free to download and use and is specifically made for meeting both prospective love interests and new friends.
The good: It’s designed for gay women and it’s for meeting friends too. The app weeds out male scammers, to provide users with the best experience.
The bad: There have been a few complaints that it’s too much of an app for relationships.
Apps like Bumble and Tinder say that they are for all sexual orientations, so many gay women wonder why they’re still giving you male matches or prospects when they have checked the box to say that they’re only looking for girls. Swiping through everybody is far too much hard work, and it needn't be like that. HER claims to be the ‘app that introduces you to every girl you’ve ever wanted to meet’ and is an award-winning combination of both dating and social media where you can meet girls you know are girls. It’s designed solely for lesbian, bisexual, and queer women and the best part? It was created by lesbians, for lesbians.
HER has a minimal layout that encourages users to engage with each other. And unlike many other dating sites that have you fill out tons of details it only asks for a Facebook signup and minimal details about yourself, so that if you want to learn more about another person, you’ll need to ask. Rather than being shown one profile at a time, you’re shown a collage of nearby women to look through.
#2 dating app for lesbians - Fem:
Fem encourages users to make a video profile to introduce themselves, leading to more personal connections from the start and weeding out the catfishes.
The good: It’s free, it encourages video to prevent catfishing, and has a cool ‘rooms’ feature.
The bad: It’s still growing, so it doesn’t have a large user base yet.
Being catfished is one of the most common online dating horror stories, but it’s particularly an issue for lesbians, who have to deal with creepy men trying to pretend that they are women. Ugh. Fem doesn’t just require Facebook approval as a way to discourage the creepy men but also takes it one step further with the unique route of posting a video profile instead of just photographs.
Since some users might be shy about posting a video; Fem doesn’t require it - but many users do take advantage of the feature because, let’s face it, it’s nice to see a video of somebody and hear their voice right off the bat.
Not Available for iPhone
#3 dating app for lesbians - Hinge:
Hinge is an app that refers to itself as ‘the relationship app’ or as people often call it, the ‘anti-Tinder’. It’s been around for a while and promises to help you get to know the other person more deeply than any other app has attempted to.
The good: It only matches you with friends and friends of friends, which is great if you’re sick of swiping through strangers. Plus, it’s free to use.
The bad: It only offers M/F gender choices; not very non-binary friendly.
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Lesbian Dating site FAQs
I have spent quite a while testing many different lesbian dating platforms and I have narrowed the list down to 5. Pink Cupid comes in first place but I encourage you to read my entire breakdown here.
Apparently the Scissr dating app serves a similar purpose for lesbians but if you know me I would never recommend a mindless app where you will likely face a lot of spam, cat fishing, danger and if you manage to avoid all that then you will likely just waste your time. I advise you to invest in a safer app that will help you find more meaningful partners. Read my full breakdown here.
You can find free platforms but I would always recommend against them unless you just want to dip your toe and see whats it like. But be warned you must navigate around fake bot accounts and cat fishers because free platforms do not regulate who can sign up. That's why I wrote the ultimate guide to lesbian dating sites.